Updated: Nov 27, 2019
Holidays can be tough, while single, especially when your marital status is at the forefront of all the family gatherings and holiday parties.
Tips to surviving "Cuffing Season!"
people are on the hunt for more stable and reliable commitments instead of the paper bag
or flimsy affairs that are more prevalent during warmer, whimsical weather. During the
holiday infested months, we tend to reconnect with family and friends as well as attend to a
number of festivities. This infectious atmosphere can breed loneliness especially when the
images of beautiful constructed duets are being paraded in front of you in the form of
stable relationships. As a result, the quick cure to the ailment of loneliness is good sappy
movie, a frozen meal ( of countless calories) and your good warm bed ( and for the pet
lovers out there sometimes Mr. Snuffles can do the trick!)
Single life has it's ups and downs and the holidays can be a downer for some singles. Having
to explain why you're still single, who you're dating or people telling you that your
standards are way to high, can be physically and mentally exhausting. Sometimes these
things can push us into the wrong arms. Loneliness makes us more vulnerable to anything
and anybody. But don't fret I'm here to share my tips and tools on how to survive "Cuffing
1- The Text for the Ex
During the holidays is when you usually get the " Hi, stranger" text from that wayward Ex.
And yes, it can be tempting to text back. Take a pause and ask yourself " Is it worth it?" and
the answer will mostly likely be" NO" ;because if the answer was " Yes" then they wouldn't be
your Ex. Also, don't trick yourself into believing that the relationship was better that it
actually was. Unless you've had some massive brain injury, history should never be
rewritten when it comes to Ex; let's be honest.
So to avoid texting back, distract yourself by calling a friend, workout, take a walk or binge
watch a show you've wanted to see but didn't have the time. Find something else to do other
than entertaining a bad decision.
2- Team work makes the dream work
Having a great support system is so necessary around this time. Having that listening ear
and reliable person that will pull you out of your rut or slap some sense into you is
CRUCIAL. Keep people around you who care about your well being. We all need someone
we can vent to about our frustrations and not feel judged.
So if you're nervous about Thanksgiving with the family invite a friend that your family
already knows to be a buffer.
3- It's Ok to not be Ok
It's Ok to admit that you get lonely or you're not happy with your single status.
Learn to be honest with yourself because when your honest with yourself it's easier to
accept and appreciation this season of your life.
Remember being single is not a curse or burden. Singlehood comes with the benefits of
doing what you want when you want. Not answering to anyone but you. Getting to now you
better with the freedom to explore and learn new things about yourself. It's a time period
to prep for that relationship you desire but to also grow into the best version of you
everyday. So don't ever feel pressured by society, family, friends and even yourself to
get into the wrong relationship and ruin the peace and joy you have while you're single.
Until next time Happy Dating!
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